Created To Be His Help Meet Accountability Worksheet for Chapter 1

I have decided that my second time through the book I am going to create an accountability worksheet to hold myself accountable. If you have been blessed by this, please let me know. And if you want to share it with others, please include a link to this website. Thank you!

1.“A wise woman doesn’t take anything for granted. She is thankful to be loved and seeks to make herself more lovely.”

Are you taking your husband for granted? Are you thankful to be loved? How are you expressing your thanks? Are you seeking to make yourself more lovely (remember this is more than just outward apperance, but apperance is included)? What are you doing to make yourself more lovely (inside and out)?

2.“You were created to make him complete, not to seek personal fulfillment parallel to him.”

Have you been seeking your own personal fulfillment instead of completing and serving your husband? Do you need to cut down on ministry at the church, women’s fellowship, or anything else in order to complete your husband and not seek your own personal fulfillment? Your fulfillment should come from completing your husband (and obedience to God’s word).

3.”It is not a question of whether or not you can do a better job than he; it is a matter of what you were “designed” to do. If you sucessfully do the job of leading the family, you will not find satisfaction in it. It is far better that the job be done poorly by your husband than to be done well by you.”

It is so easy in this world to think that we can do anything just as well, if not better, than a man. But there is no satisfaction (only unhappiness) when we try to do something that we were not created for, but our husband was. Do you have the attitude of “if I want it done right I have to do it myself”?? If so, repent to the Lord and your husband and allow your husband to take leadership. Pray and set those things before the Lord and watch Him work on your husband to take control.

4.”God made you to be a help meet to your husband so you can bolster him, making him more productive and efficient at whatever he chooses to do.”

How are you helping your husband to be more productive and effeicient at whatever he chooses to do? Notice the word “choose.” It doesn’t mean just stuff at his job/occupation. But whatever he chooses to do (I think this is especially difficult for wives of Mr. Visionaries). What changes do you need to make so that you can bolster him??

5.”A perfect help meet is one who does not require a list of chores, as would a child. Her readiness to please motivates her to look around and see the things she knows her husband would like to see done. She would not use lame excuses to avoid these jobs ... It is our job to learn how we can help our husbands in everyway possible.”

Sometimes it is easy to avoid doing things we know our husbands want us to do because he has not officially asked us. This is childish. Are you motivated to seek out ways to please/help your husband? Or are you using excuses (I’m too tired, I need a break, he never asked me to, he never said I couldn’t, etc.)? Take some time and look around the house. Make a list of some things you know your husband would like you to do. Now create a simple plan to accomplish those things and do it.

6.”I do have a choice in how good my marriage will be.”

Are you just accepting and growing stale in the state of your marriage? Change starts with YOU. What changes will you make (starting with your attitude/heart) that will work towards a good (make that GREAT) marriage??

(all quotes from Chapter 1 of Created To Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl)