I cannot tell you how many times during the past .. oh ever since we first got pregnant years, I have wished and hoped that my husband would be more romantic and desiring of me. Like he was when we were dating or first married. I wanted the honeymoon to last forever! And with more kids, it seemed more and more romance was lost. My dh just didn't woo me like he used to.
How many of you women can relate to that?
Yet how many of us are willing to give our husbands those same things? I mean, when we first met them we took great care of ourselves. We looked great, smelled great, and never let him see us without our makeup on and hair made and teeth brushed. We worked hard to look good, made sure to smile at him often and laugh at his jokes. We made him feel important and special. I am sure that our husband's desire just as much of that part of us as we desire the romance/wooing part of him.
It amazes me how easily we women can dismiss our husband's needs (I am tired, I am overworked, I am stressed), yet when our kids throw-up or wake up scared in the middle of the night, we will rush to meet their needs. We will clean up the vomit. We will comfort them. And all done in love, no matter how tired, or overworked or stressed we are.
We need to show our husband's the same love and care that we show our children.
I noticed that during the past 6 months (ever since reading Romancing Your Husband and applying what I learned) that my husband has been more romantic towards me. Saying things he used to say while we were dating. Looking at me with the same desire he did on our honeymoon (and I am 5 months pregnant looking 9 months pregnant). I may be tired from the pregancy and cleaning house and taking care of the kids ..yadda yadda yadda. But I make sure I am dressed with my hair looking nice when dh comes home from work. I make sure to smile at him and laugh at his jokes. I try to be the woman he fell in love with (not just the woman he loves unconditionally).
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GREAT Post! It really made me feel bad because I was doing just that-expecting him to be the same as he was when we were dating-but I had stopped doing my hair nice and putting on make-up before he came home. And even worse, I had even stopped packing his lunch all together (and for the first year we were married, I packed his lunch and wrote a love note in it each day!)
thanks for the oh-so-important reminder. I am working hard to change my behaviors. It puts things in perspective. I am not so hard on him either. :-)
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